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Amanda Hale Trauma-Informed, Mentor & Coach

Guiding & supporting individuals navigating breakup, post-separation abuse & co-parenting struggles with a toxic ex.

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Amanda Hale Trauma-Informed, Mentor & Coach

Guiding & supporting individuals navigating breakup, post-separation abuse & co-parenting struggles with a toxic ex.

Complimentary Connection Call

Amanda Hale breakup and narcissistic abuse recovery coach

How I Can Support You During All Stages of Your Breakup

Trauma-Informed, Personalised coaching, just for you

I use somatic trauma-informed strategies to offer you a calm and compassionate space where you can heal, grow, and discover a happier you.

I offer an email service whereby I can help you by serving as a buffer between your high-conflict ex and you. I also script emails on your behalf.

My offering is tailor-made for each individual client as everyone is unique and each situation has its nuances.

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IDENTIFY & MANAGE TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS whilst maintaining your zen

Trauma-Informed, Personalised coaching, just for you

As your mentor & coach, I specialise in offering you emotional and practical support during breakup & post-separation abuse from a high-conflict or narcissistic ex.

I can help you to heal and move forward by providing you with effective co-parenting strategies, self-regulating

tools to manage narcissistic abuse triggers, a variety of communication skills to help you manage your high-conflict ex plus ways to nurture the bond between you & your children, and more...

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Trauma-Informed, Personalised coaching, just for you

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I’m here for you - with immediate help - when you need it most!

Have you ever found yourself needing to speak to someone neutral, who is fully on your side, outside of normal business hours?

Or perhaps you feel triggered and need to speak to someone that same day but your therapist, best friend or family member is not available?

That's where I come in...

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Are You Experiencing Post-Separation Abuse?

the nature of a relationship with a narcissist & post-separation abuse

“The narcissist is like a bucket with a hole in the bottom: No matter how much you put in, you can never fill it up. The phrase “I never feel like I am enough” is the mantra of the person in the narcissistic relationship. That’s because to your narcissistic partner, you are not. No one is. Nothing is.”

Dr. Ramani Durvasula

If you are in the unenviable position of 'co-parenting' with a highly narcissistic or controlling ex (and going no contact with your ex is not an option), the abuse will undoubtedly continue beyond your break-up or divorce. In many cases, sadly, the abuse escalates. This abuse is oftentimes psychological, emotional, financial and sometimes physical. This is what is referred to as Post-Separation Abuse.

When a narcissistic or coercively controlling ex feels they are losing control of you, they will typically up the ante by trying to take control of what's still within their orbit of influence. This more often than not means that they will weaponise your children, finances and sometimes the legal/court system,, in order to maintain their sense of power and control. They will try to get people to side with them, against you (whether that be your friends, family members, professionals, and most painfully, even your children).

Dealing with this type of situation can be all-consuming and incredibly draining. After all, it is a very harmful form of abuse, and you are likely experiencing trauma from the relationship itself on top of everything else. There is no doubt your nervous system is dysregulated, and you may even be suffering from C-PTSD symptoms. Despite all of the above, you are needing to be the protective parent, and guiding light for your precious children. You have no choice but to keep soldiering on and to do your best to be present and consistently there for your children.

Unsurprisingly, at times it can all feel too much. This is when it is SO important to reach out to people (trusted friends,family and professionals) who have your back; who understand what you are going through, and do not judge you). Start thinkng about who will be part of your support team. It is said that it takes a village (in the best of times) to help raise children; in these circumstances you find yourself in, it cannot be overstated how valuable it is to have a team of devoted & experienced support people around you.

Individuals like me, who have personal & professional experience, can offer you validation and emotional support, along with practical suggestions to help you get through this difficult juncture in your life. You can go on to 'co-parent' with your very challneging ex, with much more confidence and self-belief, with a more regulated nervous system (supporting your children's wellbeing along the way).

Ready to take the first step?

Schedule your complimentary Connection Call with me today and find out more about how we would work together and whether we are a good fit! I'd love to help support you.

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Post-Separation Abuse & Recovery

Post-Separation Abuse | Divorce | Break-up | & Recovery

Would you like to be able to co-parent WITH MORE EASE AND CALM?

You have discovered that it's nigh impossible to co-parent with your toxic or narcissistic ex. In fact they tend to 'counter-parent.' In other words, they purposefully do the opposite to what they know you would want them to do. You can't change your ex, but you CAN change how YOU do things.

Would you like tips and strategies on how to Parallel Parent with increased levels of regulation? Would you like to feel more grounded and empowered so that you are in a better position to support your children with their challenging emotions & behaviours?

You realise you need someone outside of family and friends to help support you in managing the emotional and day-to-day struggles of breakup, divorce & post-separation abuse from someone high-conflict, controlling and/or narcissistic.

Do you feel you would benefit from learning new ways to reduce the conflict between you and your ex because you cannot go no contact?

You have tried to communicate with your toxic ex but feel that you are not making any headway. In fact your ex's behaviour is getting worse. You are ready to try something different & learn new strategies so that you can manage the relationship with your toxic ex and get less activated.

Would you like to learn more about your own nervous system and gain more awareness of your triggers and how to respond to them differently?

Do you wonder whether you will ever break free from the toxic grip of your controlling or narcissistic ex?

Would you like help learning to regain trust in yourself? Plus learn to hone your radar (in terms of being aware of various toxic traits to watch out for), so that you avoid getting into another relationship with someone toxic or narcissistic?

Have you reached a point in your life where you feel you want to work on enhancing your relationship with yourself - allowing for more self-compassion, self-love & approval in your daily life?

Do you tend to put yourself down? Do you put other people's needs before your own on a regular basis? Do you often feel you must please others to avoid their disappointment so that you feel okay? Do you feel like you are being selfish if you take care of your own needs? Do you struggle with identifying and enforcing your own boundaries?

If you found yourself nodding repeatedly as you read above, please reach out to me for support. It's time to put the main focus on YOU & not on your ex. Let's connect, and find out whether we are a good fit: Complimentary CONNECTION CALL.

Kind Words From My Clients...

A.K

Amanda has been a godsend. She helped me navigate a high conflict divorce with a clinical, pathological narcissist. She is such a good listener and was able to provide great insight, empathy, and practical, helpful guidance. Sessions with Amanda when I was in the thick of things were like a lifeline and a survival guide on how to get through it. I can’t recommend her highly enough!!!

A

Thank you to Amanda, who has a real gift for helping people through incredibly tough situations with strength and compassion. She supported me and helped me find the courage during a painful separation, and she gave me clarity around the controlling behaviour I had experienced. I often find it difficult to open up but her professional, calm and grounded presence helped me feel safe, heard and validated. Knowing she could truly relate made all the difference. I’m so grateful for her guidance during such a difficult time, and I highly recommend Amanda’s services.

M.S

The emotional and practical support I have received from her has been invaluable. She listened to me, and made me self reflect and work towards a positive, calm future in which it’s ok to be an imperfect human being. The coping mechanisms and strategies that she provided me with were not only helpful, but encouraged me to believe in myself and be able to cope with the stress of my very complex situation. She did not give any legal advice, but only helped me with my personal issues and emotions pertaining to the divorce, making me see the process in a more practical and simple way. I am extremely grateful to Amanda and can attest to her professionalism as well as a personal approach which I feel is incredibly important in what can be a very lonely and frightening situation.

A.B

Amanda was very professional, understanding, knowledgeable and compassionate. I appreciated her experience and advice at such a delicate time. I took many notes and great tips away with me and I keep her words of advice in my mind as I ride this terrible journey of divorce! My sincere thanks to her. I definitely recommend Amanda’s coaching service. I know that she will go on to help so many more people like me as she is passionate about helping people during one of life’s major stressors. Finally, rather than holding the lawyers hand via this process, Amanda's knowledge and experience fills that void, and helps save a substantial amount of money.

B.T.

I have known Amanda for a while. When it came to speaking with someone who has been in a very similar situation as me, she seemed the most appropriate person to share my problems with. Amanda is calm, kind and as well as having professional experience, she also has personal experience with narcissistic abuse and toxic relationships. Talking to Amanda helped me a lot when going through this very stressful period and I can highly recommend her and her approach regarding how best to deal with toxic people.

D.C.

Thanks so much for today and the recommendations you gave me were super helpful. As you know I really do appreciate the help you are giving me. All the feedback I have for you is hugely positive. You are like a calm oasis in the rather fraught world that is my head at the moment. It most definitely helps that you have been through so much of this too.

A.F

Amanda is the empathetic and insightful ear I have found great comfort in during an extremely challenging and turbulent process. I'm grateful I found her when I did.

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Amanda Hale Trauma-Informed, Mentor & Coach

Amanda Hale Trauma-Informed, Mentor & Coach

How I Can Support You During All Stages of Your Breakup

Trauma-Informed, Personalised coaching, just for you

Trauma-Informed, Personalised coaching, just for you

Trauma-Informed, Personalised coaching, just for you

IDENTIFY & MANAGE TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS whilst maintaining your zen

Trauma-Informed, Personalised coaching, just for you

Trauma-Informed, Personalised coaching, just for you

Get S.O.S SUPPORT When you NEED it MOST

Trauma-Informed, Personalised coaching, just for you

Get S.O.S SUPPORT When you NEED it MOST

Are You Experiencing Post-Separation Abuse?

the nature of a relationship with a narcissist & post-separation abuse

Ready to take the first step?

Post-Separation Abuse & Recovery

Post-Separation Abuse | Divorce | Break-up | & Recovery

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How I Can Support You During All Stages of Your Breakup

Trauma-Informed, Personalised coaching, just for you

Trauma-Informed, Personalised coaching, just for you

Trauma-Informed, Personalised coaching, just for you

IDENTIFY & MANAGE TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS whilst maintaining your zen

Trauma-Informed, Personalised coaching, just for you

Trauma-Informed, Personalised coaching, just for you

Get S.O.S SUPPORT When you NEED it MOST

Trauma-Informed, Personalised coaching, just for you

Get S.O.S SUPPORT When you NEED it MOST

Are You Experiencing Post-Separation Abuse?

the nature of a relationship with a narcissist & post-separation abuse

Ready to take the first step?

Post-Separation Abuse & Recovery

Post-Separation Abuse | Divorce | Break-up | & Recovery

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