Amanda Hale
Trauma-Informed, Mentor & Coach
You're not meant to carry this alone. I help you navigate breakup and co-parenting with a controlling ex -
with calm & clarity
Are You Experiencing Post-Separation Abuse?
The Nature of a Relationship with a Narcissist, & Post-Separation Abuse
"The narcissist is like a bucket with a hole in the bottom: No matter how much you put in, you can never fill it up. The phrase 'I never feel like I am enough' is the mantra of the person in the narcissistic relationship. That's because to your narcissistic partner, you are not. No one is. Nothing is."
- Dr. Ramani Durvasula
If you're co-parenting with a highly narcissistic or controlling ex — and going no contact isn't an option — the abuse rarely ends when the relationship does. In many cases, it escalates. It can show up as psychological, emotional, financial, and sometimes physical harm. This has a name: Post-Separation Abuse.
When a narcissistic or coercively controlling ex senses they're losing control of you, they'll often tighten their grip on whatever still feels within reach - your children, your finances, sometimes the legal system itself — anything to hold on to power. They may try to turn others against you too: friends, family, professionals, and most painfully, your own children.
This can be all-consuming. It's a real and harmful form of abuse, layered on top of the trauma of the relationship itself. Your nervous system is likely dysregulated, and C-PTSD symptoms are common. And still, you're the one holding it together - the protective parent, the steady presence, the guiding light for your children, even on the days it feels like too much.
Because at times, it will feel like too much.
That's exactly when it matters most to lean on people who have your back - who understand, without judgment. Start thinking now about who belongs on your support team. It's often said it takes a village to raise a child; in circumstances like these, having a village of people who truly understand isn't a luxury - it's essential.
This is where I come in. With both personal and professional experience, I can offer you validation, emotional support, and practical, grounded guidance to help you through this chapter. In time, co-parenting with your challenging ex can feel different - steadier, more confident, less reactive. And through it all, your children's wellbeing stays protected.
Ready to take the first step?
There's no pressure here - just a warm, complimentary Connection Call to explore what working together could look like, and whether we're the right fit for each other. I'd love to hear your story.
Qualifications
What makes me qualified to help you ?
CPD & ICF Accredited Somatic Trauma Informed Coach™
CPD Certified Narcissistic Abuse Specialist™
Focalizing Institute - Focalizing Practitioner
CPD Accredited Break-up and Divorce Coach Master Practitioner
Coercive Control Trauma-informed Coach Certification (Dr C. Cocchiola)
TQUK Level 2 Certificate in Counselling Skills (RQF)
CPCAB Place2Be Level 2 Award: Counselling Skills for Working with Children
And more....!
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